Heavenly Marriages
“Does God consider every marriage as one that is meant to be?” we have been asked. If God actually chose our partners for us, we could say,” Possibly,” but He is not a ruler who rules unquestionably. We live with a free will which sometimes interferes with what is best for us. We make decisions; other people make decisions that influence us; circumstances make decisions for us. Sometimes those decisions are good. Sometimes not.
People who think they married the wrong person often are remembering an old flame from high school, college or singles years – maybe even an ex-spouse. Memories blurred by time can be very deceiving.
Christopher was sure that if only he could connect again with his college sweetheart, Amber, he would be happy. He found Amber on the internet and walked out of his marriage. She walked out of hers. Unfortunately, he discovered that nothing was the same as he remembered. He pleaded with his wife to take him back. She didn’t.
Anthony didn’t cheat on his wife but she left him anyway. He said to me, “I’m a church going man. I believe the Bible. And the Bible states that God will grant us the desires of our hearts. He hasn’t given me my desires. My wife filed for divorce and my kids are acting up. I can’t pay my bills and my car needs fixing.”
Anthony was talking about Psalm 37:4. What he skimmed over was the first part of that verse…the condition required before he could get the promise fulfilled The entire verse says, Delight yourself also in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart.
The Bible is full of promises to improve our lives; but linked with most of those promises are instructions and commands. If we ignore them, we suffer the consequences.
After we delved into it, it was clear that Anthony hadn’t delighted himself in the Lord by doing what he was told in the Scriptures 1) He hadn’t been the kind of husband that he needed to be able to keep his wife in love with him; 2) He had an fiery temper that she and their children had endured more times than any of them could remember; 3) They had bought things they couldn’t afford, including the expensive car he was now driving and were deeply in debt.
It’s too late to save Anthony’s marriage because his wife already has remarried, but hopefully he’ll take all of that Bible verse to heart and change his habits.
If your marriage isn’t all it should be, see if your life is in line with God’s plan for you. We have to do our part in order to receive God’s promises. That’s why we were given intelligence, common sense and knowledge of the difference between right and wrong.
We’re here to help you move in the right direction. Whether you have a bad marriage or just one that needs improving and you would like it to become a delightful match, follow the advice given in our books and material for men and our books and material for women. You’ll see some good things come to pass.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
Marriages in trouble can find help? 100’s of thousands have used our marriage advice. Saving your marriage is what we do best , and get separate help for women This article, Heavenly Marriages has free reprint rights.
